You decide how much of your body is the headline
Your photos tell people what to expect, so choose ones you like. You don't owe anyone a particular picture. If you're proud of your figure and want it to show, that's your call. If you'd rather lead with your face, your smile or something you love doing, that's also your call. Just know that what you show shapes who messages you, and decide on purpose.
- Lead with a clear photo of your face so people see who they'd be talking to.
- Add a photo of you doing something you enjoy, which gives people something to ask about besides your body.
- Only use photos you're comfortable having seen, and remember anything shared can be saved.
Say what you want in your profile
A couple of honest lines can filter out a lot of the wrong messages before they arrive. You don't need to apologize for your figure or explain it. You can say what you're looking for, and how you'd like to be approached.
"Looking for someone who can hold a conversation and a door. Yes, I know what I look like. Ask me about something else first."
"I like being admired, and I like being asked. Good manners will get you further than a good opener."
Spot who actually sees you
The first few messages tell you a lot. Someone who read your profile and asks about something in it is a different prospect from someone who opens with your chest.
- A good sign: he mentions something from your profile, asks a question, and takes his time.
- A good sign: he accepts a "no" or a "not yet" without sulking or arguing.
- A warning sign: he opens with a comment on your body, or asks your size or for more photos straight away.
- A warning sign: he pushes you to move to another app, or gets cold when you say you'd rather keep chatting here.
Handling comments and assumptions
Many women with large breasts describe being commented on by strangers, or being assumed to be a certain kind of person because of their figure. You're allowed to shut that down. You don't have to be polite to someone who isn't being polite to you.
"I'd rather talk about something else."
"That's not a comment I'm interested in. Ask me about my day instead."
"I'm going to stop replying now."
On Boob Dating you can report any member from their profile page, and explicit images are blurred, so you choose whether to look. You're never obliged to answer anyone.
Trusting someone new, at your pace
- Chat first. A few days of messages, or a short video call, tells you whether his profile matches the person.
- Look at the profile. Members can verify their profile, which shows as a tick, and every member has a rating other members can vote up or down. These help, but they aren't guarantees, so keep trusting your instincts.
- Meet somewhere public the first time, arrange your own way home, and tell a friend where you'll be.
- Keep personal details private until you trust him: your address, your workplace and anything that shows where you live.
If you like being admired, that's allowed too
Enjoying attention on your own terms isn't shameful, and it doesn't make you responsible for anyone else's behavior. Admiration is welcome when you invite it and it's respectful. It never gives anyone the right to touch you, pressure you or keep going after you've said no.
Why a niche site can make this easier
On a general dating app you might spend a lot of time explaining or deflecting. On a site built around an appreciation for big breasts, like Boob Dating, members choose to be there, so you don't have to guess who is open to it. It's free to join, and you set the terms: what you show, who you reply to and when.
Questions women ask
Is it normal to feel tired of comments about my body?
Yes. Plenty of women do. You can set limits, say you'd rather talk about something else, and stop replying to anyone who won't respect that.
Should I hide my figure in my photos?
That's your decision. There's no right answer, only the one that suits you. Choose photos you like, and be aware that what you show influences who writes to you.
How do I tell if someone sees me as a person?
Watch what he talks about. If his messages are about your profile and what you said, that's a good start. If every message comes back to your body, he's telling you what he's interested in.
What if someone won't take no for an answer?
Stop replying and block or report him. You don't owe anyone an explanation, and you shouldn't have to keep dealing with it.